Friday, February 14, 2014

Valentine's Day

Happy Valentine's Day everyone! I hope that someone is showering you with kisses, nice notes, and maybe a piece of chocolate..or two.. :)

I am new to this Valentine's day tradition. Yes, I have been with Sam for almost 13 years now, which is 13 Valentines, but we didn't always celebrate. I was the girl who always had a boyfriend (it was pretty much always Sam) and all my friends did not. One year in high school I went to my best friend's house with 2 sprinkle cones to console her broken heart. Another year I spent it inside the dorm making crafts and watching sappy movies. One year I even went out to dinner with all my single friends to Angus Barn while all were throwing their fists up as "women rock! Who needs men?" I turned my engagement ring around and joined in. Why? Well, I wanted to support my friends, show them that just because I have a boyfriend (or fiance) that I have no capacity to understand their feelings on what is typically a hard day for single people.

In my years of market research..hah!..I discovered that Valentines is seen by people as a day to say "I love you" to your significant other. A spouse, a boyfriend, a girlfriend, the one who knows you better than yourself. You say, "I love you." "I love you for always doing the dishes. For being an awesome Dad. For forgiving me in times that I should not be forgiven. For making me laugh. For making me think." "I Love YOU, all of you." Well for me, Valentines Day is just that, but it is also more than just telling my husband I love him.

Which - total side note - if you decide that you are not going to celebrate Vday for 5 years you are together, it CAN NOT be assumed that once you are married you will. It took YEARS to finally sink in to Sam that I wanted a card, a love note, anything. Now he is the supremo Valentine.  

Valentines makes me think of everyone I love.  My kids - I want them to know that I love them with every fiber of being and every bit of my soul. There is nothing they could say or do that would make me stop loving them. They are my heart. My family, as rocky as family is at times, it is so comforting to go see your parents/ hear their voice/ not listen to their advice when you maybe should. To cry on your sisters shoulder for no reason, to celebrate tiny successes with people who get it and see your nieces and nephews become little people. My friends - oh geez - they carried me through some of the hardest times and the most confusing times of my life. They have been a pillar of support in ways that no one else can. They can make me laugh, relax, and feel like I am the best person in the world. They let me wallow, complain, and rejoice about life. They are going through the mothering years with me and sometimes I just need to hear that her child also is a crazy banchee who acts like a nut. I need the friend who comes and just is a friend. No agenda, no schedule, no expectations.

So, Happy Valentine's Day to everyone I love. Hope your day is as special as you are!

1 comment:

  1. I was the dorm craft night (pity party, cough cough) and one of the many at Angus Barn! :) What would I have done without you?!?!